Rules for Relationship
If I were in charge of a relationship and had to make sure it went well at all times, what would I do?
I would set rules,rules that benefit both parties somehow.
Rule: 1 Five days out of the week, ask yourself how I can please my partner, what can I do for he or she today and do it.
Why I think it works
First your shifting the focus to your partner not you,Your significant other cannot say a majority of the usual excuses of things you do or don’t do that are bad, It forces good attentions and time spent together.
Rule: 2 Never down grade or say negative things to your partner in front of people or to other people.Always say good things about them.
Why it works
You never embarrass each other and psychologically and socially you save a lot of face
Rule 3: Form a partnership,- the rules being that in private you will be openly honest to each other and function as one unit never giving up on each other; if your not ready for this one yet and are not sure he or she is the one, keep the never give up on each other out until you can say it truthfully.
For this to work both partners need to want to be the best they can be and understand that in this relationship you are one person. You must be willing to give and receive help. If you do accuse someone of something you most be able to prove it, If it is just I feel this way,the couple will have to explore why and work on solutions together.Remember all problems cannot be solved but most can be solved or modified.
Rule 4: Compromise unless one party can clearly prove a decision to be correct
Rule 5: Forgive - You must always be willing to forgive, The person being forgiven must make it up and offer concessions and something special along with being sincere.
Rules 6: Always bring up your partners ego make him or her feel important alone and in front of others. Never lie to do this you can always find positive things to say.
Rule 7: Forget money and all other things. Your a team one unit,money and material goods is for a separate category, You should treat your partner better then your friend, and you do not judge your friends by how much they give you.
Rule 8: Never hold something against someone,if it is something they cannot control.
Rule 9: Never hold grudges they hurt you and your partner and have nothing positive.
Rule 10: Track this progress,I know most people say not to but the advantages are that it can limit one person trying to hard and the other not trying, It also provides prove for those who you know thing they.
These are the rules that I thing make the best relationship,I do struggle with the fact that if you are a male and follow all these rules that a women will start to find you boring or not that Alpha male that her genes yearn for, Maybe she will say yes you meet all of the needs above but I just don’t love you anymore, or whatever excuse she can come up with,this is were I need more information on women, I need their input. What if your following these rules and the other is telling lies not being truthful. Your dog is faithful to the end, do you ever hear stories of dogs rescuing owners,or visiting their grave years after they die, I would like to believe a loving relationship should be stronger then a human dog relationship.
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